Need, Want

"I need you."

I am hearing a lot of these statements recently, both in private lives and at the movies, both regarding love stories.

Some of my friends just melt hearing those words by their boyfriends' mouths. Funny because the same words give me the creeps, reminding me of symbiotic relationships like the kind the hermit-crab has with its shell.

I need you, I can't live without you... Gosh, give me a break! Breath. Try, and you'll see that you can still breath on your own. Yes, even if you love me, it's not necessary to give up your basic autonomy in the name of love.

Logic give people what they need, magic give them what they want.

Love should be magic, shouldn't it? It should be based upon free, happy choice not desperate, grasping need. If you want to have a relationship with me tell me that you want me. Never (never!) that you need me.

I practice logic sometimes, when it's necessary, but I don't believe in logic. I believe in magic and freedom.

I believe also in love. As long as it does not remind me of CPR, without which somebody cannot stand up and breath and enjoy life on their own. As long as it does not evoke images of a sticky substance or spider web where two people get themselves trapped in, without even a clue of awareness.

So, I guess, I believe just in magic, enchanting, illogic and free love. If it stops to be that way, I'd rather go without.

Comments

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i always thought that it's degrading to see yourself as the traditional half of an apple, that is incomplete if doesn't meet the other half... a relationship builded on a need, on the fear of loneliness, on an empty to fill, it's very sad... the meeting between a woman and a man should be an expansion, a joyful dare... without you i feel perfectly fine, with you i feel more than myself...